Responding to Power Struggles

Excerpt from Responding to School Challenges

"I'm not putting my phone away." "What are you going to do about it?" "I don't have to listen to you." These are not the responses you expect to hear from students... but it happens. When a student refuses to comply with a teacher's request, it can cause major disruptions. Learning how to handle these situations can increase the likelihood of resolving them.

How can I stop power struggles from happening? No matter the experience level, power struggles are unavoidable for teachers. As an educator and mom of 2 boys, I have learned that you must "practice what you preach" or model the behavior you want to see. Modeling the expected behavior can help others to learn to self-regulate their behaviors, emotions, and reactions to stressful situations. What should I do if I am in a power struggle? If you are involved in a power struggle, be sure to show care and consideration. Here are a few ways to deescalate the situation before major issues arise:

• Listen and validate. Taking a moment to listen intently can show that you care. Students who do not feel heard may shut down or lash out. Before you provide a response, show that you understand by acknowledging their feelings.

• Provide choices. Giving students a variety of options can increase autonomy and provide an opportunity to negotiate. Be sure to use a calm tone to reduce tension and prevent escalation.

• Follow through. Once you agree to a plan of action, be sure to honor your part. Your follow through is an opportunity to build trust and stronger relationships.

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